讀後心得

As times change, more and more people are choosing not to have weddings, leading the original poster to seek help on a forum. Their partner comes from a traditional family and insists on holding a grand wedding, which has caused frequent conflicts between them, even leading to near breakups. The original poster hopes to learn about other users' experiences and explore how to resolve their differences in values. Some users suggest that those who want to have the wedding should be responsible for the costs, while others believe that both parties should communicate more and find a mutually agreeable solution to avoid future problems.

The details of the wedding require the couple's personal involvement. With the changes of time and shifts in perspective, there has been a significant increase in couples choosing not to host a banquet. One netizen confessed a reluctance to hold a wedding, however, their partner's family is very traditional and insists on a grand wedding, leading to frequent arguments between the couple and even a breakup crisis, causing the original poster great distress and curiosity about the opinions of other netizens, sparking a heated discussion.

A netizen posted on the forum expressing that weddings are exhausting, requiring a significant amount of effort and considerable expenses. Additionally, nowadays, young people are quite disinterested in wedding banquets, hence they want to skip the banquet process and choose to register for marriage directly. However, their partner's family has traditional views and believes that a wedding must include a banquet, the more extravagant the better, with even the boyfriend's father stating, "Without a banquet, how does it resemble a wedding?" This left the original poster quite troubled, and they have been arguing with their boyfriend to the point of considering a breakup. They couldn't help but ask for the opinions of other netizens, "How would everyone handle such a situation involving differing values?"

• One netizen shook their head and said, "Those who want to hold a wedding should cover the entire cost, don’t just talk the talk. If consensus truly can’t be reached, maybe it’s better not to get married."
• Another netizen suggested, "If they want to host it, let them bear the costs; you can just show up as a decorative stand-in."
• Another netizen mentioned, "Communication is key; look for a balanced point that both can accept. If consensus can't be reached, then each should make a concession."
• Some opinions pointed out, "If the in-laws insist, discuss it with your husband; perhaps a compromise solution can be found."
• Finally, a netizen reminded, "If neither side can compromise, in the future, they may also struggle to face problems effectively."