讀後心得

A 29-year-old engineer shared his troubles, as his parents dislike his 25-year-old girlfriend, which puts him in a difficult position between the two. They have been dating for three years, and the initial family gatherings went relatively smoothly. However, as his girlfriend is unwilling to live at his house before marriage, his mother began to hold prejudices against her, even emotionally blackmailing him to stop seeing her. This made him feel caught in a dilemma, and he is confused by his girlfriend's independence and his parents' traditional views. Netizens are debating whether he should break up, believing he cannot withstand this kind of pressure.

If parents dislike their child's partner, interactions often become awkward. An engineer feels helpless as his parents oppose his girlfriend, causing him significant distress. This netizen shared on a forum that he is 29 years old, his girlfriend is 25, and they have been dating for three years. The first and second dinners went smoothly, but after the third meal, the girlfriend faced opposition from his mother. The mother then continuously influenced the father, and now their views on the girlfriend have become quite negative, even though there has not been much interaction between them.

The netizen revealed that the root of the dispute lies in the girlfriend's reluctance to move in with him before marriage. Subsequently, his parents emotionally blackmailed him, stating that if he chose to marry this girlfriend, they would not want him to come home anymore. Sometimes he feels like a "bad teammate," at other times he thinks the girlfriend is not mature enough, and sometimes he believes his parents have issues with emotional management. He currently works at a tech company and expects to be able to afford a house independently, while his girlfriend’s monthly income is about 50,000, which can support him, but she wants the freedom to do what she wants and does not like being constrained, which leaves him feeling very uncertain.

The post sparked lively discussions among netizens, with comments including "A typical person who wants to push parental responsibilities onto their wife," "Support break-up, your family values are too traditional, not suitable for someone with their own opinions," "Clearly, you cannot take responsibility, switching girlfriends won’t help," "To be honest, your ability is still lacking," and "It’s not yet time to discuss marriage; that’s premature."